At some level, we know that being authentic works and yet it is easy to fall short of it. We give in to other’s expectations of us, perceived or otherwise. We sell out on our own values and sacrifice our authenticity on the altar of looking good. There are definite implications for leadership.
As storytelling animals, we filter our experience and make sense of our world according to our unique perspective and point of view. The problem is our point of view isn’t the only point of view and yet we gather evidence for it and before we know it, it becomes synonymous with how life is. Like all stories, there are good ones and not so good ones. The quality of your life depends on the stories you tell yourself about it.
It seems to me that we all want to be known and to be understood. We want to be validated and make our own unique contribution to the world. Why then do we don the ‘mask’ and fail to show up as our most vulnerable selves? Fear of rejection, fear of being laughed at or taken advantage of and so we armour up instead. What we seek to protect ourselves from harms us more.
We all have a picture of what it means to be a control freak. It has something to do with an obsessive need for self-control or control over others and situations and an eagerness to take charge of the situation. The alternative is chaos and if you love order, you aren’t going to be that fond of chaos or going with the flow for that matter.
Results are natural outcomes that show up when we follow that formula. You can either use that formula consciously and my recommendation is that you do do that, or you can be used by it. Either way, the results are going to come as you are producing results all the time. If those results are not in line with your stated or desired outcomes, it might pay to take a look at the words you use and how you use them. The actions you take and the results you produce will be directly correlated to the words you speak.
Relying on enthusiasm is not a good strategy for getting anything done.
Keystone habits create structures and practices which in turn create a culture which dictates behaviour. In an environment where people are heard, mistakes are welcomed and values are agreed upon and aligned on, what you end up with is a culture that dictates the behaviour but not in a way that is dictated from above. Influence trumps control every time.
If you know how you are and what you stand for it can make choice and easier process, especially if it is values driven. Once you know your values and have found your voice, you are well on your way to steering your own course.
Taking time to honour the process of death and deliberately focus on the life lived can alter your experience and will determine how upset you are every time you remember your loved one. This is what I learned about life and death when I supported my friend when she had to put an end to her beloved dog Murray’s life.
The state of being whole and complete What is integrity? There are a number of definitions out there. Basically, those definitions fall into two camps: The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. This is the camp that claims the high moral ground...