Fun Fact: We all ‘box’ information. It’s part of how we are wired to short-cut information by generalising and deleting what we see hear and experience. It’s how we make sense of our world, and it’s how we make meaning. Meaning has to do with interpretation, and this is where the Boxes, which are a short-cut, come in. Those same short cuts limit our thinking.
What would happen if values provided the context for our lives? To Live according to your values requires courage, and sometimes it takes an enormous amount of courage to do that.
The loser we live our values, the more likely they are to be externalised.
The tighter we live our values, the higher the degree to which we have internalised them.
Improv integrates mind and body beautifully. You can only really integrate mind and body when you are being present. If you’re ‘in your head’ trying to plan chances are it isn’t going to work; you get stuck in ‘working it out’ when there’s nothing to work out. Too much gets lost.
There are any number of reasons why we procrastinate. They range from avoiding negative feelings and fear of failure to perfectionism. In the words of Tim Urban, long term procrastination can make you feel like a spectator in your own life. Any way you look at it when you are procrastinating you’re not being responsible; you are ‘below the line’. Any below the line behaviour is unconscious, avoidant (think binging on any streaming platform) and keeps you stuck.
This is the subtle art of acting “As if”. It’s not about faking it, it’s the art of feeling your way into something new, and that is only ever going to work if you are committed to it. You won’t be committed to your course of action if you are judging yourself in the moment. As Cindy Tonkin, our Improv facilitator pointed out to us, there is plenty of time for judgement later. Of course, confidence isn’t the same as competence. Competence takes time and practice. When you are in the throws of something, BE there and act committedly. That is where flow lies. No commitment, no personal momentum. Commit and move forward.
This is a time of unprecedented pain for many. As Brene Brown says…
“Pain that is not transformed will always be transmitted.”
When this happens, we end up living that reality we create for others. It acts as a contagion of sorts, and it impacts those around us.
What would it take to turn that ‘little voice’ into your greatest ally?
It’s going to take weeding out the thoughts, beliefs and dare I say it, even people who are not supportive. That doesn’t mean you don’t take on feedback as feedback from the right people who have earned the right, is very valuable. I’m not talking about that. However, just like when you tend to your garden you have to be continually removing weeds; the same logic applies to your thoughts etc. that don’t serve you. Weeds choke your garden and the same is true of thought patterns that are destructive.
We all have an idea of what it is to be confident and we recognise it when we see it or hear it: Confidence is being certain about the truth of something or a self-assurance of one’s own abilities or qualities; it’s the belief that we can rely on or have faith in someone or something and helps you gain credibility, make good lasting first impressions and supports you in dealing with pressure and meeting life head-on.
Every story needs a hero and a villain. Of course, there is a victor and a victim, as well. Again, just open any history book to see this at play, or any watercooler in any staff room, the same types of narratives are at play. I’ll bet most of the time you cast yourself as the Hero. I know that’s my preferred role. Others prefer to be the victim. That doesn’t belittle the circumstances you might find yourself in. Sometimes situations can be pretty tough. So, there’s NO judgement here. It’s a perfectly human way to be.
When you are responsible for your choices you don’t disown them down the track or even 5 minutes later. You literally decide and own them UP-Front. That’s the kicker. That’s the piece most of us struggle with or conveniently forget when we change our mind.